If time were an animal, it would be on the endangered species list.
At least that’s how it seems for many of us: too much to do, too many places to be, too little time to do it all.
On the job, in school, at home, we are increasingly imprisoned by the perception that time is a scarce and limited resource. We rush from one commitment or activity to another and believe that we haven’t a minute to spare. We yearn for more time, yet we often feel anxious and guilty when idle.
Is this how life is supposed to be?
Absolutely No! Nor does it have to be.
But until we change our relationship to time, our lives will continue to speed away from us—at enormous cost to our health and to direct experience of ourselves and the world around us.
“There is no issue, no aspect of human life, that exceeds this in importance,” says Jacob Needleman, author of Time and the Soul. “the destruction of time is literally the destruction of life.”
When we learn to shift time, our relationships become more rewarding, our time spent alone is richer, our aging is more satisfying, our work is more fruitful and our stress and anxiety are less paralyzing, or even nonexistent.
To allow time to “breathe” more in your life, try some or all of the following coaching tips and notice how your reservoir of time starts to refill.
Pause. Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Han suggests taking a deep breath before answering the phone. Other conscious pauses throughout the day—a moment of silence before each meal, sitting in the car a few minutes before entering the house after work—help us to “come home” to ourselves.
Carve out idle time alone. Greek philosopher Aristotle noted that “nature requires us not only to be able to work well but also to idle well.” Just because you’re not doing anything doesn’t mean that nothing’s getting done!
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Live as fully as possible in the present moment. When we leave behind thoughts of the past or future, we can experience time more peacefully, says Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now.
Examine underlying reasons for your busyness. What emotions would you experience if you weren’t so busy? What would you wish for? Emotional work is challenging but essential so that we stop running from our hearts.
Play. Whether you sing, wrestle, paint, shake your bootie—whatever—play helps us to step outside of ordinary time.
Create time retreats. Once a year or so, choose to do something for a week or more that allows you to shift into a different rhythm—something where you can just “be” without the need for doing anything.
Spend time in nature. We can’t help but slow down in nature’s unhurried pace. Watching a soaring bird or examining a flower can seem to stretch a minute into an hour.
We can all learn to experience time more purposefully and meaningfully—so that it’s not an enemy robbing us of the joy of life. We needn’t be at time’s mercy. When we change our awareness, we can actually experience the gifts of time.
One of the most common practices to gain more awareness, so you experience more joy and peace in your life is meditation.
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Affirm to yourself:
“I have all the time I need to achieve the things I want to do.”
No Excuse Action Steps:
List the 7 coaching tips to shift your relationship with time. Pick your top 3 favorites. Practice them daily for the next week.
Remember, I am here for you, to support and believe in you.
I would love to hear about how you experience the gift of time. Please post below.
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Laurie Seymour
20 Jul 2016Beautiful post, Josee! I love reading how you speak to things that I also teach. I felt myself taking a breath as I read. A conscious breath changes everything!
Lea Tran
21 Jul 2016Love this, Josee. Yes, a lot of people focus on their relationship with money – but our relationship with time may be even more valuable. It’s ‘time’ to nurture it.
Tae Lynne
21 Jul 2016This jumped right off the page at me: “But until we change our relationship to time, our lives will continue to speed away from us—at enormous cost to our health and to direct experience of ourselves and the world around us.” I know now that the constant racing through the day, stressing, hurrying, striving, contributed to my chronic illness setting in. In a podcast interview yesterday, I said that my developing a chronic illness may have been a blessing in disguise. It forced me to slow down (former Type A, driven woman), to be more mindful and to be present to the world around me. Now I practice meditation, deep breathing…and watch the birds & butterflies in my garden. Do I wish I was 100% healthy? YES! But I was given the gift of slowing down for another reason. Thank you, Josee
Zeenat Merchant Syal
22 Jul 2016Love the post Josee! So beautiful and peaceful in your ways.
xoxo,
Z~
Claudia LeBaron Islas
22 Jul 2016It’s interesting that you mention breathing when I started being more mindful about my own breathing patterns a couple of days ago. Thank you for the reminder and encouragement!